I have a friend. Every time this particular friend goes out of town, she waits until she's at the airport to come back before she starts calling people to pick her up. By this time, most of us have already made plans. Last time our other friend and I had made plans to go to a dance class. So, when she calls us at 5:30 and asks us to pick her up at 7:30 (exactly the time the class starts) we are left making a split second decision--what's more important, the plans we made or our friend? Of course our friend is more important, but if she had asked us before she left, we wouldn't have made other plans. Second example: This morning she calls at 8:30, to see if I can pick her up at 10:30. If I pick her up at 10:30, I will miss worship at church, which I feel like I really need right now. Since it is already 8:30, and I am still in bed, I cannot go to the first church service (which starts at 8:30) and make it in time for worship. If she had asked me before she left, I could have made plans to get up earlier and go to the first service. Instead she leaves me having to make the decision (and she actually even said this in the voicemail she left) "what's more important, your friend, or worship? And obviously it would be your friend." It is frustrating that she does this EVERY time she goes out of town. Of course she's more important than any other plans we have made, but I feel like we shouldn't have to choose. If she had enough respect for us to let us know in advance, then we could plan things differently and still be able to do both. What would you do if you were me?
Here's what I did: I called our other friend, who doesn't really like worship at church, and asked her if she could pick this friend up at the airport. She said yes, so she is picking the friend up. Here's my dilemma. I feel like it was kind of selfish of me to ask someone else to do it, but I am going to buy her something for doing this favor for me. At the same time, I feel like it's better this way, because if I skipped worship and picked my friend up, I would be angry and bitter and not have time to cool down before I talk to her about this and the conversation would probably not go well at all.
So if you're reading this, what do you think? What would you have done?